Dear mother is a series of love for other mothers like me, mothers of typical children, mothers of children with disabilities, mothers of children who are no longer among us physically but whose souls continue to illuminate the path of those who love them forever.
Dear mother, it is a reminder of the daily situations that limit us when we forget the sacred task that has been entrusted to us and how great it is to accept it with love without the need to seek perfection, on the contrary, starting from the acceptance that even though we will never achieve perfection, we are still the best for our children in each stage we go through as we grow up along with them.
Good mothers have something in common – perhaps not all, but many, and if you are one of them, this gift is for you –
- Sometimes not knowing if we are doing things well can put us at states of deep anxiety
- Sometimes we feel guilty for making mistakes, and for that, we punish ourselves emotionally instead of focusing on all the amazing things we achieve every single day
- Many times we do not feel enough, and for that, we feel terrified to think that our children do not have the mother they deserve.
The good news is that all these personal demands are nothing else but the fruit of the intense love we feel for our children. When well directed, these feelings can strengthen us and help us grow. Unfortunately, when the opposite happens, they can also cause anxiety and depression in motherhood, and that is why it is important to speak openly without judgment or pretension to knowing or having all the answers. Non-judgmental support is the real gift.
Dear mother, there are a couple of phrases that I want to gift you to help you overcome these moments of love and doubt,
1. You will never be perfect but you are already perfect for your children. Nobody loves you like they do.
2. You do not need to have super powers because in reality your most powerful power is the love that guides you and shows you in its humility and humanity how to do it. Let the voice of love speak louder than the doubt.
3. Mistakes are necessary and in each one of them you will grow up along with your children to learn what works and what doesn’t work. Errors become teachable lessons when accompanied by reflection, and they have the potential to become wisdom when forgiveness enters your heart. Learning to forgive yourself is the greatest act of love you can give yourself and the most powerful lesson you can pass on to your children.
Dear mother, you are already enough, you are already perfect, and you need people by your side who celebrate how wonderful you already are. Don’t let anyone limit or diminish your value. Surround yourself with those who see your light and help you make it shine strong, strong!
