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From my daughter, I learn the greatest lessons of true inclusion and individuality. Through her reactions and responses to situations that would otherwise go unnoticed for me, I can see the ability of those living with a disability to become self-advocates, as they strengthen their capacity to defend their individuality and their right to refute the labels imposed by society. The story that follows made me reflect on the urgent need to revise our definition of true inclusion when we believe that the phrase “I love THEM all,” is positive or inclusive.
We were walking in the supermarket and suddenly someone saw her from afar and came to greet her, a situation that is not uncommon but perhaps a little less logical due to the current pandemic. Yaya, who was looking at some products, immediately walked away and took refuge behind me. I heard the person say from afar, “I’m sorry, I love THEM all.” Yaya looked into my eyes, and her gaze really opened my mind because without saying anything she had said everything. I took her by the hand to look for Emir who was buying sushi somewhere else, and as we walked I asked her what had happened. Her response let me speechless, “How can someone love me without knowing me,” she told me. “I don’t know her.”
I think that I have never heard Yaya express so clearly a concept that obviously comes from
I will never get tired of talking about these issues because for the moment, I continue to be the voice of my children, and in a way the one for those who agree and find in these words a way to share their need for a world of real inclusion in which our children go unnoticed in their disability to be recognized in their individuality, and not the other way around. I will keep thinking about Yaya’s gaze as I reflect on her personal evolution and her pride to identify herself as an individual. She is in full acceptance of her condition, as well as her abilities and limitations.
I really am left with this feeling of pride and satisfaction knowing that to be a full and complete person, you do not need superpowers of any kind, or succumbing to the need to be loved by those who do not know you. Instead, you need to love yourself deeply to recognize that love is earned, built